Letter, Jan. 9, 2013
Date posted: January 9, 2014
Taking care of one’s self
welcomed with new year
With all the holiday season sentimentality in the past, a new year has dawned and we are all in the throes of this modern dilemma together. Long-term planning and changes take precedent over the instant gratification of more Christmas cookies.
We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen masks before we help anyone else with theirs. This advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironically, that if you can’t take care of yourself for yourself, do it for others.
Few situations in our daily lives mimic the wake-up call of an airplane emergency so it’s easy to keep putting self-care off. That is until we get sick, overwhelmed or exhausted and suddenly don’t have the energy to care for the people who count on us. That’s when we realize we haven’t been getting the oxygen we need to sustain ourselves. We begin to understand that taking care of ourselves is neither selfish nor indulgent; it’s just plain practical
Putting yourself first means that it may be necessary to say no to someone else in order to say yes to yourself. For many of us, there is always something we feel we could be doing for someone else, and it helps to remember the oxygen metaphor. You can even encourage yourself by saying, “I am caring for myself so that I am better able to care for others,” or some other mantra that will encourage you. It also helps to remember that self-care doesn’t have to be composed of massively time-consuming acts. In fact, the best prescription for taking care of yourself is probably small daily rituals. For example, drinking lots of water, taking daily walks, taking a half-hour for yourself at the beginning and end of each day to meditate, journal or sit quietly alone. You might also transform the occasional daily shower or bath into a half-hour self-pampering session.
Whatever you decide, making some small gesture where you put yourself first every day will pay off in the long run for you and the ones who depend on you. The oxygen you need is all around you; sometimes you just need to be reminded to breathe.